Stop going out there telling people how lucky they are, when they have worked their butts off for their WIN. Because you see, some people might get things because of luck; most work hard for what they want.
I have never been someone to question a person's achievements - because, for one that's not my place. Well, maybe I have - but, I often try not to because I don't know of people getting trophies for doing nothing. I don't know what these people have been DOING and what they got DONE to get here. Because, we haven't heard the stories of those who win before they got here, doesn't mean it fits them into the box of 'overnight success'.
Overnight success is a myth; it doesn't exist. Because we sometimes hear about top players and innovators in a month after their breakthrough, it doesn't mean they just got here without much work. We all know this right? So, why do we often question, the success of others when they arrive - you know, when they get their breakthrough. Hey, look at the success story of the co-founders of Whatsapp. Or even the story of Brian Chesky of AirBNB.
Maybe they only just arrived because, they went through failures, made mistakes, had to deal with rejections, all while working tirelessly on mastering that one thing that was holding them back.
So, what qualifies people who make the Forbes 30 under 30 list? It isn't hard to recognize. It is hard work. Their dedication to their brand and craft. Whether it is because of their innovative idea or game-changing movements - their hard work helped to get them here. I have never seen anyone who made it to the top who did half-ass work.
Oprah, Sophia Amoruso, Ava DuVernay and Myleik Teele are great examples of those who put in the work - because, mediocrity doesn't cut it. They didn't just say they are 'doing', they got things done. People I admire who are doing incredible work, like Mattie of Mattieologie and Courtney of Think and Grow Chick has shared tips and tools that are helping them to WIN at what they do. And yes, they have also shared, how long it took them to get it right.
No one, made it in a day. And as I like to say, Rome wasn't built in a day, neither will the road that leads to success and that's a fact. So often, we complain about putting in the work. Or better, we put in the work but don't trust the process. Or we expect instant gratification, because we worked at it, not realising we have much more to do, than just working - we have to make sacrifices, make impact, inspire change and do a DAMN good job. Tory Burch talks 'overnight success' in her Babson's Commencement Speech.
"We may live in an age of instant messaging, instant gratification, and Instagram, but there is no way to short circuit the path to success. It takes hard work, tenacity and patience. There are many things you can do overnight. You can write a decent paper. You can put the finishing touches on a runway show. I hear you can even have a pretty good time at Roger’s Pub. But there is no such thing as an overnight success."
When I read power lists curated by Forbes, Fortune or Ebony and see people like myself winning at life, my ultimate goal is always to know, what makes these people stand out, what sets them apart, what they are doing right and what they are doing different.
Here, I share three (3) common traits that I have found in people who keep winning.
1. They Keep Going and Doing
In our communities we have seen movers and shakers, doing their thing (and often times we don't know their back story). Then, we have those in the background, working their butts off, trying to bring that one idea that life. Executing and failing. Presenting to investors and stakeholders and being rejected. And the cycle goes on. But one thing I realize that set these people apart is their resilience and the tenacity to fight against the odds. They keep going and coming back stronger after failed attempts and repeated NOs.
2. Knowing their WHY and What They Want
It is great to create a list of those you admire. But, what is more impressive is creating the life you desire and working towards your goals. This thing about overnight success doesn't exist. If you start working on something today, it doesn't mean it is going to come through tomorrow. It doesn't mean it's no good, it only means, you have to keep tweaking and keep going. Let your why drive you to the top.
3. Getting things DONE!
It's great to talk about what we want to do (I am so guilty of this) - but getting things DONE is more important. We have all, at some point, talk more than we do, but the aim here isn't to talk, it is about staying true to your word and getting things done. Shelby (@bronze_bombshell) has shared one rule she has implemented when it comes to getting things done, which I absolutely love and most of us should try .
We started off the year on a high (at least, I would hope so) and we have amazing goals we want to achieve. Stay fired up, but most importantly, keep going out and getting. Keep at it, working hard, being consistent (I am working on this), focusing on your WHY and trusting the process.